Welcome to the Misericordia Family!
If this is your first time as a parent of a college student, you and your son or daughter are probably experiencing some good moments and some tense moments in the midst of the transition. This is a natural occurrence as your son/daughter experiences many changes that are occurring simultaneously. As they move toward adulthood, these changes include developing a sense of competence, managing emotions in a new way, moving toward interdependence, developing mature interpersonal relationships, establishing their identity, developing a sense of purpose, and developing a sense of integrity. They also are developing new ways of thinking for themselves and learning to take more responsibility for their choices and decisions. They are developing a sense of their own values and they are learning how to make good decisions in tough situations. The thing is, there is no blueprint for how your son/daughter will develop in all of these areas. They need to find their own way with your support and with the support of all of us who will interact with them here at Misericordia.
What Can You Do?
You can encourage your sons and daughters to get involved in the total college experience for two reasons. First, the more they get involved the more we can get to know them and direct them to appropriate support resources and personnel. Second, by immersing themselves in all that college has to offer, they will get to know themselves more fully as the unique individuals they are and learn how to build on their strengths for a solid long-term approach to life.
What does it mean to get involved in the total college experience? It means getting fully involved on campus by regularly attending their classes, attending tutoring sessions, and talking with their faculty. It means joining clubs and organizations and volunteering in service projects. It means utilizing campus support services such as counseling services and career services. It means participating in intramurals and athletic events, as well as college-wide events.
Immersion and involvement in ALL of campus life (whether students are residents or commuters) is key to their ability to develop and emerge into young adults. You can help them by encouraging them to get involved and by allowing them to take care of their own responsibilities. This is how independence and success in college and life is nurtured!
Above all, keep the lines of communication open between you and your son or daughter and don’t panic! Remember that most of the changes your son/daughter goes through are transitional ones on the way to becoming the young adult that you have raised them to be.
What Can the Counseling and Psychological Service Center (CAPS Center)Offer Students?
The Center offers individual counseling sessions to address any topic or issue that gets in the way of your son or daughter’s academic and personal success in college. Some examples of topics often addressed in individual counseling are homesickness, roommate conflicts, relationship issues, depression, general anxiety, test anxiety, eating issues, anger management, stress, substance use/abuse, and self-esteem.
Counseling and support groups are also offered on special topics, such as homesickness, healthy relationships, grief, assertiveness, relaxation and stress management. Other services include consultation and referral services, as well as crisis intervention.
We have a Counselor-On-Call (COC) 24 hours a day for emergencies. The COC can be accessed through a student’s Resident Assistant (RA) or Resident Director (RD) or through Campus Safety office at 674-6300. We have a team of trained faculty and staff ready to offer support for anyone affected by sexual assault. They are called the Sexual Assault Response Team (SART) and are also on-call 24 hours a day. They can be accessed by calling 570-417-8888. Another facet of our outreach to students is through the Campus Peer Associate program. This includes Peer Advocates, Sexual Assault Peer Educators, Substance Abuse Peer Educators and HOPE(Healthy Options Peer Educators). Students in these groups are trained by professionals to be a support and link to campus and community resources. They also provide educational and awareness programs for their fellow students.
How Can the Counseling Center Help Parents?
We are always available to consult with you about concerns you may have about your son or daughter. You can call at 570-674-6408 or 570-674-6366 at anytime. We welcome your contact with us and want to be supportive in your efforts as parents to support your son or daughter.
What about Confidentiality?
Counselors are bound by professional ethics and standards as well as state and federal laws regarding client confidentiality. Therefore we cannot share the content of any contact we have had with your son or daughter, nor can we even confirm or deny that your son or daughter has been seen in the Center. This applies even if you yourself have made a referral to us for your son/daughter or if your son/daughter has told you that he/she is seeing us. If you want to know about your son/daughter’s counseling content, you can always ask him/her if he/she would be willing to sign a Release form so we can talk with you. And even if your son/daughter does not sign a Release form, you may still call us and share your concerns if you believe he/she is in danger. If we do know your son/daughter, your information may be helpful to us in our work with him/her.
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